Being a mother requires love, hard work, sacrifice and lots of patience. But many people in our society debate whether mothers should have a career or stay at home. For some mothers, it is not a choice to work, but a necessity, and for other moms, choosing to work can be empowering. On the flipside, staying at home with your children can sometimes be considered a luxury. There is truth behind the doors of both of these homes, and with the truth, comes both sides of the coin. Regardless if you land on heads or tails, there is a give and take for both kinds of moms. The question isn’t who is better, it is: what works for you?
Stay-at-home moms have the ability to get involved in their children’s activities at school, never miss a milestone, and get more work done around the house. On the other hand, you can become overwhelmed and feel the burden of loneliness and the suffocation of sometimes feeling trapped. Try to find a hobby where you can interact with other women that can encourage and inspire you. If you feel the need to strengthen your personal identity, it is a good idea to look into something that gives you meaning. Remember that you are more than just a mother, and that part of you needs your attention just as much as your children.
As for the working mom, it goes without saying that being away from your children is never easy. The positive side to this is teaching your children the importance of accountability, commitment and the fulfillment you get from doing a great job. Being a working mom also means that you are never off the clock. The key to not cracking during this charade is just like the key to being a stay-at-home mom: Me-time. Mothers are pulled in every different direction, and you can easily burn out. Taking time for yourself is a rewarding thing to do that will benefit your mind, body and soul. Finally, make the most out of the moments you can spend with your kids. The quality of time given to your children will shape them for the rest of their lives.
Regardless of what you choose, both roles are extremely difficult and must be respected. Each woman must find what works best for their family dynamic. Remember to never lose sight of who you are as a person. Allow yourself time to tend to your own needs as well as your family’s. Consider everything you have, and embrace whatever road you take. There are pros and cons to both sides, but the pro in both sides is that each of you deserves to be praised. W