We all desire meaningful connections in life, and friendships are some of the most cherished bonds we’ll ever experience. In our younger years, it may have felt natural to seek out friendly companions: our guards were down, and some of us were lucky to have encouraging parents to guide us on how to make and maintain healthy friendships. So, what happened to us in adulthood?
If we’re married, we may have stopped nurturing friendships outside of the marriage. Some of us may have “friends” at our workplace, however, they may really be more like “acquaintances” than we realize. Would you reach out to your coworker after receiving devastating news? And outside of the office, how much in common do you really have with them?
What about those of us who are stay-at-home moms? We’re surrounded by little hands and voices all day long, all the while craving actual adult interaction. Let’s face it – as much as we love our kids, they just can’t fulfill that mature human need to connect.
The good news is that there are many ways to make new friends. Meeting new people and enjoying fellowship with those who share our interests can increase the excitement, support, and joy in our lives, not to mention we all have something to offer that will bless someone else. If you can relate to this, check out the ideas below, locate your inner social butterfly, and begin your journey to making a new friend!
1. Smile more: Smiling makes you more approachable.
2. Meditate and pray about what you want out of a friendship: Put it out there and it will find you.
3. Research interest group sites: Connect with like-minded people.
4. Be yourself: There’s no need for a facade, as a true friend will cherish who you really are.
5. Ask questions: The best way to get to know someone is to ask questions and listen.
6. Don’t flake: If you invite someone new out for coffee or lunch, be punctual and show up, and remember their time is as valuable as yours.
7. Volunteer: There is a ton of need out there.
8. Join a book club: Expand your perspective with new friends through literature.
9. Discover your inner artist: Express yourself and connect with a buddy through a visual medium.
10. Be brave and take an improv class: This is the ultimate ice-breaker experience. It’ll help you break out of your shell and make friends through the sharing of laughter.
11. Join a group at your church: Connecting with other people spiritually is a meaningful way to form strong bonds.
12. Reconnect through social media: What’s happening with that old pal from high school? Reach out and rekindle your friendship.
13. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed: Speak up. Divulge your interests to friends, and ask them to connect you with like-minded people.
14. Work it out: Find a workout buddy. You’ll have endless time to converse during a walk or hike, or chatting it up on the treadmill.
15. Get out: You can’t expect to make new friends if you’re a hermit crab, so put yourself out there.
16. Join a fitness class: A support system can lead to long-term health and fitness success.
17. Join a support group: Get empowered and bond with others who may be experiencing similar issues.
18. Take a night class: It’s never too late to broaden your mind. Your next study buddy may turn out to be your next best friend.
19. Take a cooking class: Reach out to a foodie and swap recipes!
20. Hang out at the dog park: No shame in letting your K-9 sniff out a new friend.
21. Go on a small group tour: You may meet some adventurous people to explore with.
22. Go on a group cruise: Share your story amid the waves and crisp ocean breeze.
23. Go to a concert: Bond with someone who digs similar tunes.
24. Host a party: Be it Bunco, PartyLite, or Tupperware, you may have a lot in common with someone’s plus one.
25. Join a fan page: Click and connect with others who love the same binge-worthy shows you do.
26. Let your guard down: Don’t keep yourself bottled up inside. Take a chance and open up.
27. Be friendly: No pun intended.
28. Listen: Part of a long-lasting and mutually beneficial friendship is learning how to be a good listener.
29. Be bold: Let’s face it – making new friends can be intimidating in any decade, so if you’re going to do it, be bold about it!
30. Believe in yourself: Have confidence that you bring a lot to the table in a friendship. Anyone would be lucky to meet you!