Four weeks ago in New York City, I was honored to be invited to join the “Fortune Top 50 Most Powerful Latinas.” At the ceremony, we were wined and dined and attended workshops throughout the day where we got to know one another. Patty Sellers, executive director of Fortune Top 50 events around the world said, “So, ladies, you’re on the list – so what? Now what? What do you do with yourselves now?”
I raised my hand and said, “I’ve organized a luncheon for all the California Top 50 women so we can unite under a common cause locally.” Immediately, another woman said, with a bit of a competitive attitude, “Well, we can do the same in Atlanta!”
My answer was, “Excellent! That is exactly what I intended to inspire – for all of us to join forces to make a difference.” I was talking to everyone in the room, men and women – not just my fellow Fortune Top 50 women.
It was at that moment that I realized that we, as women, don’t always play well together. We need to have a new conversation. “Playing others up” is not a good value. Not only do we not play well together as women, we also are in competition with men. My question is: why do we have to compete with others? Why not just compete with our own best selves? The moment we compete with someone else, we are limiting ourselves to their potential. What if our own potential was even higher?
Women were beautifully designed to be feminine, nurturing, smart, and able to handle many tasks at the same time, while also providing comfort for those around us. Men and women were designed to complement one another, as each of us brings our own strengths to the table that, when combined, make for a stronger team.
If we are to reach new heights, it’s all about collaboration – not competition. It’s about competing against our own selves. Look in the mirror: that’s your competition. We should all be locking arms with men and women who complement us, while serving and raising others to their highest potential.
It’s no longer about “The Women’s Movement.” It has to be about a community of like-minded people with a common vision, moving forward and playing by strong values.
A Call to Action
So, now I say to you: you’re here – so what? Now what? What is your calling?
Think of the reason you got into your industry in the first place.
• What was your higher purpose?
• What is your higher purpose today?
Talk is cheap. Our actions are what reflect our values.
What if I were to ask you right now, “Do you know what your top five values are?” Look at your calendar! That’s how you identify your top five core values.
We have the ability to change the trajectory of someone’s life when we give of ourselves freely, live without fear, and always act with courage and transparency. Here are three simple best practices you can implement today:
1. Over the next two weeks, meet for lunch with four other leaders with whom you have a common purpose.
2. Reach out and offer value to someone in your circle.
3. Ask one person who is highlighted in WestCoast Magazine to come to your company and speak to your employees to inspire them to be better leaders.
If you don’t do any of those, do one thing to improve the leadership of you and/or your employees. Regardless of your title or role – CEO or shoe shiner – we all have the capacity to be leaders, and we are all custodians of the talents we have been given.
If you inspire everyone around you to practice this every week from now on, to reach out and deliver on value, asks others to pay it forward, and share a helping hand to elevate someone… think… just think of the world we live in… This world will be a better place.
Play by your values!
© Copyright by Dr. Betty Uribe (2017)
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Dr. Betty Uribe is Executive Vice President of California Bank & Trust, author of the #1 international best seller #Values, and a motivational speaker and inspirational leader