“Mommy, can I spend the night at…?”
We have all slept over at someone’s house as kids. It was so much fun to spend the night and stay up watching movies, having pillow fights, and sporting our cutest pajamas. Our parents probably felt relieved, but missed us at the same time. When my oldest daughter has a sleepover, I find myself hearing her voice even when she’s not there, and I call her to say goodnight and can’t wait to see her the next day. The great part about where she spends the night is that I am not worried about her while she’s gone. This is only because I take great precaution where I allow her to venture off to.
Many times she has come home from school to tell me about a new friend she met at recess and has asked if she can spend the night. She has been through this with me so many times now that she knows the answer is “no.” This is no offense to the little girl she was playing on the swings with, but more of a safety issue. I have explained to her that I do not know the parents of her friend and that they do not know me either, and therefore, spending the night is out of the question.
There are also rules to having sleepovers at my home. I, of course, must be asked in advance in private. I don’t tolerate being asked on the spot as it puts pressure on me and the child in question. My daughter knows now to ask in advance. I, too, must know the parents and build a trusting relationship with them because if I am going to be responsible for someone else’s child, I need them to know I am responsible, caring, and will respect their daughter as if she were my own. Setting boundaries with your kids is always something that will help shape their future, and starting at a young age is key.
My next goal is to host a slumber party, but before I do this, I need to lay down the rules and grab a partner from church to help host the event because five girls plus pajamas, sugar, and makeovers can be overwhelming. I am excited to do something like this for my daughters next year, and there will be tons of planning that goes into it. I am learning so much with my 9-year-old, and I am grateful because I am getting wiser for when my 4-year-old will ask about a sleepover for the first time.
If you have ever hosted a slumber party and know any good tips, do tell. I would also love to read your thoughts on what your guidelines for sleepovers are. Can’t wait to hear from you ladies soon!