Bullies like to push people’s buttons. They like to hurt and embarrass others. They like to make people angry.
If you’re being bullied, or are seeing someone else being bullied, it’s probably making you very angry.
You may feel like screaming. Your heart may start pounding. Curse words may be racing through your head. You might be really scared and really angry.
However, before doing anything you may regret, here are 5 things to do when you’re angry:
Stop what you are doing.
If you are driving, in a car, on your bike or skateboard, safely pull over. If operating any type of machinery, carefully bring it to a stop. Tell yourself, “I’m going to be okay.” Say it over and over, while slowly breathing and exhaling, until you feel more calm and centered.
Write it down.
If anger is an ongoing issue for you, keep paper and pens handy. Write down exactly what happened (a kid from school in a white Toyota cut me off).
Then, write down what you did. (I let him go by. I yelled at her in my head. Fighting for my spot in traffic wasn’t worth getting in an accident or killed over.)
Say “Stop! That’s not okay!”
Literally. It throws people off. “Huh?” By saying “stop!”, it puts the responsibility of the hurtful act on the other person, not you.
(You’ve probably heard this many times. Just walk away.) Go to your principal’s or school counselor’s office. Tell them you are being bullied.
Practice identifying how you feel.
It will help you to see when you’re angry or hurt.
If you catch yourself being overly-frustrated, sensitive or tearful, depressed or isolated, you might be harboring some anger. And, if you or someone is being bullied, it’s no wonder you’re feeling angry!
It’s entirely “normal” to be angry if you are being picked on, made fun of, harassed or bullied.
Before acting on your anger and possibly making the situation worse, immediately meet with, call, or text your trusted person. Don’t wait. Don’t worry about being late to class. Go to safety.
We at Kennedy’s Voice care about your and all students’ safety. To learn more about bullying, your rights, and what to do if you or someone you know is being bullied, “Like” “Kennedy’s Voice” on Instagram and Facebook. If you would like to help or volunteer with Kennedy’s Voice, please contact Sierra Phelps at firstname.lastname@example.org, Bonnie Palacio at email@example.com, Kandie Phelps at firstname.lastname@example.org or Scott Snyder at email@example.com.
About Brenda Corderman
Brenda Corderman, MA, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Brea, CA. She is a member of Kennedy’s Voice and an advocate against bullying. For more information, visit her website at www.brendacorderman.com.